Real Generosity Begins With Self-Care
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” — Oscar Wilde
Everybody wants something from you. You’re stretched thin. Your body aches—and not from exercise. You know self-care is important, but it feels out of reach. There’s just no time.
Does this sound like your life?
These are some of the excuses I hear:
🌀 “Self-care is for the weak or the wealthy.”
🌀 “It’d be nice to take a bubble bath and wash my worries away.”
🌀 “Maybe when I retire.”
🌀 “I feel guilty doing anything just for me.”
🌀 “Self-care is selfish. It doesn’t align with a life of service.”
And yet, the statistics speak volumes:
💔 67% of people care for others before themselves
💔 33% feel guilty taking time for themselves
💔 51% of Americans feel burned out
💔 Only 30% make time for self-care
We know self-care matters. So why do we push it aside?
I get it. I’ve been there.
The first time someone told me to “take care of yourself,” I wanted to scream.
It was 1989. I was living in the desert of New Mexico with a newborn who cried endlessly, a husband in medical residency who was rarely home, and no nearby friends or family. Our marriage was unraveling. I felt alone, broke, and utterly depleted.
A therapist offered those five well-meaning words: Take care of yourself, Susan.
I paced my kitchen, furious.
“How? With what energy? With what time? A bubble bath isn’t going to fix this.”
It would take years—and many more heartbreaks—before I truly understood what self-care means.
Self-care is not a luxury. It is a deep, radical act of remembering that you matter.
Not in some Instagrammable way.
Not with red-light beds, lymphatic compression suits, or cryotherapy.
But in the quiet, sacred decision to pay attention to your needs.
In my book, I’ll take you on a journey through the darkest seasons of my life—messy, beautiful, painful, transformational. From a lonely postpartum breakdown to the heartbreak of visiting my son in jail. Through every chapter, you’ll uncover the truth:
Self-care is not about perfection. It’s about presence.
I share the Five Wellness Strategies that changed my life:
Set healthy boundaries
Monitor and marshal your energy
Create stillness
Learn the language of your body
Listen to all of yourself—mind, body, heart, spirit, and emotions
This isn’t a book of tips and tricks.
It’s an invitation.
To come home to yourself.
To stop kicking the self-care can down the road.
To recognize that caring for yourself—really, deeply, truly—isn’t selfish.
It’s essential.
💥 This is not a cry for candles and massages.
💥 This is a call to self-care warriors.
If you’re ready to take up that call, I invite you to join me.